Celebrating Valentine's Day
February has become a month that is centered around the holiday of love. There are signs of it everywhere as stores fill up with sweet treats and stuffed animals. People take time to celebrate the love they have for those they hold dear by giving out chocolate or cooking dinner; by sharing kind words and special thoughts.
Maybe this Valentine’s day you are struggling to truly appreciate and celebrate the people in your life that mean the most. Perhaps there is a barrier you are struggling to break or you are in need of a revival in the connection with your significant other. Or maybe you do not have a Valentine and feel as if that makes you feel lonely, or alone.
We here at Cornerstone want to challenge you to practice not only love this Valentine’s Day, but Self Love. Here are some tips on how to achieve both!
- Take time to recognize the reasons that you feel happy, proud or accomplished in your life. So often we struggle with appreciating our successes or strengths because we are constantly reaching for what is next. We look forward so much that we lose track of all the great things that exist in our present. Take time to drink those positive things in and be proud of who you are in the “now" so that you can become better in the “later."
- Give yourself credit for being who you are on your own. At the end of the day, you must be happy with yourself before anyone else. You are in charge of that fate, embrace it and embrace who you are so that you are better apt to meet, grow and love others in the future.
- Don’t hide from the things you want to change. No one is perfect, and no one expects you to be perfect! If there is a place in your life where you seek growth, choose not to hide from it. Formulate a plan on how you can grow in that area of your life so that you can make positive steps forward.
- Take time to let your partner know their worth in your life. So often we are moving so quickly that we do not stop to truly appreciate people for all of the things they bring to our lives. We focus on the negative instead of appreciating the positive. Remind them of why they are so special to you and use the hardships you may face as ways to grow your relationship further.
- Listen. At times some of the greatest barriers are built when we choose to close our ears to others. If you are experiencing trials in your relationship take the time to be open to your partner’s needs, concerns and thoughts and ask that they do the same for you. When someone feels like you are open to their feelings, they are in turn more open to yours. Remember you are on the same team- work together!
- Communicate. As you experience daily difficulties it is important that you face them head on with your partner. It may seem easier to block these things out or ignore them but they tend to pile up and cause greater damage at a later time. Be open to having discussions in a timely fashion so that you are able to develop a plan on how to fix these issues (no matter how small or large)! If your partner is unaware that they have hurt you, they are unable to fix it. By communicating your concerns with them, you are giving them the tools they need to build a stronger bond with you!
These pointers are things that we would encourage you to practice every day, not only on Valentine’s Day! And if you find it difficult to practice love for your partner or self love for you- we would encourage you to call Cornerstone Counseling. We are here to help you on a path toward healing for a better, more positive and loving life!